Despite signing paperwork and a checklist of dos and don’ts, I was in way over my head. What I thought I was agreeing to felt a lot different in reality. I was groped by hands I didn’t know. There were masked people everywhere, but only the ones wearing wristbands were my approved scene partners. If I balked at an act or found it difficult to perform, I was “punished” for my defiance (which is the nature of a BDSM scene). It felt more like a party for the extras than a professional scene. Experienced as I was, it was new to me. I’d never used a safe word before (and forgot to), so when things became too much to bear and I began protesting, no one listened. The word “No” doesn’t work in these types of scenes.

I met my breaking point in this particular scene—halfway through, I had to be untied and calmed down. I was shaking. I felt a catch in my throat when I tried to speak and I could barely keep the tears at bay. I felt like I’d been beat. Yet I was hugged, inundated with compliments, and told how strong I was for being on the receiving end. I was caned, electrically prodded, and slapped around. I didn’t feel powerful. In the interim, I had to decide whether I was going to quit or be a professional and finish the scene. After everything I’d gone through, leaving would have made it worthless. So I stayed.

After the scene, I did a brief on camera interview about my experience—a standard company procedure. I nodded my head, smiled, and said all the right things. To me, that interview was also part of the job. It’s also filmed before performers are paid, or at least that’s been my experience.


While there are plenty of porn stars who regularly work for Kink and sing their praises, those that have had a negative experience are hesitant to speak up, fearing what it would do to their workload. Kink is one of the few large companies with the budget to offer steady work. Some people in the porn industry, it seems, would rather have work they don’t like than no work at all.

My ‘Kink’ Nightmare: James Franco’s BDSM Porn Documentary ‘Kink’ Only Tells Part of the Story

That “documentary” is blatant pro-BDSM subculture propaganda. The more general issue, however, is the multi-headed hydra of mutually dependent coercive institutions: BDSM on the surface, and the capitalist society on which this peculiar manifestation of abusive sex rests. To quote unquietpirate’s reaction to this article on Twitter:

See also more of my criticism of the definitionally pro-rape BDSM subculture:

See also more of my criticism of definitionally anti-equality capitalist social orders:

See also more of my writings on the intersection between ethics, consent, sex, and labor:

And finally, see also one of my most well-cited performative rants, “Re-Caste-ing alternative sexuality: A Class Analysis of Social Status in the BDSM Scene.”

TL;DR: The coercive nature of BDSM relies on and reinforces the coercive nature of capitalist economics. It’s possible to have satisfying, kinky sex that has nothing to do with BDSM. It’s also possible to enjoy doing satisfying work that has nothing to do with capitalism. Anyone who tells you otherwise is trying to control you.

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I saw a post with a bunch of tweets by Wil Wheaton about misogyny in games and ok that nice but lets not forget all the shit he’s pulled like blaming black people for Prop 8 and being on fucking Big Bang Theory, a show that constantly reinforces misogynistic views about women in tech.

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Anonymous said: (1/2) I would like to correct something one anon said. It's true rape is primarily committed by straight men but straight women are NOT the primary victims of rape or sexual abuse. 2010 the CDC released a study on abuse stats by sexual orientation. They found lesbian and bi women were more likely to experience sexual violence than straight women, in the case of bi women we are twice as likely to be raped. PLEASE PLEASE RECOGNIZE THIS. Rape is used as a weapon by the patriarchy against ALL women


(2/2)but women who fall outside the narrow definition of “good woman” such as WOC and LGBTQA women are always disproportionally targeted. Please recognize this fact, please recognize that lesbophobia, biphobia, racism and transphobia have intersected with misogyny to create this many lesbian, bisexual, WOC, and trans women victims. It’s so important to us that this problem is not made invisible. Yes rape is a gendered crime but it’s also used as a tool of oppression in many other ways.

All the war-propaganda, all the screaming and lies and hatred, comes invariably from people who are not fighting.
George Orwell (Homage to Catalonia)

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PURPLE DOOR DO WANT /grabby hands/

PURPLE DOOR DO WANT /grabby hands/

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Reposted as a favor to Sam.

All the law-abiding tumblr folks tend to get upset when I post these pictures.  Please keep in mind that tons of people appreciate creative vandalism…

…and only seem to complain about it when it’s directed at pornography,

I support this 110%


'Dont I get a hug' most cringeworthy line

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my mom has been a cop for over 20 years and she is the one who constantly warns me about police aggression and young male cops and told me that if you’re ever alone on a rural road and a cop throws their lights on to put on your four ways and drive to the next gas station before stopping because so many cops are scum and it’s not worth the chance of getting hurt. the fact that SHE feels the need to tell me this shit scares me to death

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if you dont like me please dont pretend to like me ever

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How many times have we hurt each other not knowing? Destiny
wears her clothes inside out. Each desire is a memory of the future.
The past is a fake cloud we’ve pasted to a paper sky. That is
why our dreams are the most real thing we possess. My logic
here is made of your smells, your thighs, your kiss, your words.
I collect stars but have no place to put them. You take my breath
away only to give back a purer one. The way you dance created
a new constellation […] Why is the shadow
I cast always yours?
Richard Jackson, from “Ten Things I Know,” Resonance: Poems (The Ashland Poetry Press, 2010)

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this is the best twitter account ever

I can’t wait until my niece starts coming out with this stuff.

basically I use this space to reblog awesome shit I find lying around the internet. often nsfw. I regret nothing. beware.

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