Modesty Codes in Pentecostalism and Mormonism (Feminism and Religion)
“You look like a lesbian.” “Why do you want to look like a man?” “Hey, boy head!” These were just some of the responses I got from friends and family when I decided to cut off my hair. The gendered connotations that come with how one decides to wear one’s hair are an overarching signifier of the dominant culture’s obsession with normative appearances. Many religious institutions and congregations uphold normative understandings of appearance and dress. Growing up in a conservative town in rural South Georgia and being raised within a Pentecostal tradition came with many challenges regarding gender, sexuality, and dress.
In an earlier post on FAR, I described my experiences with my church and my community regarding sexuality in “Sexual Ethics and Southern Belles.” In this post, I want to further explore those thoughts to discuss modesty codes within my own Pentecostal denomination, The Church of God, and within the LDS Church. Both Mormonism and The Church of God promote modesty codes that are ultimately harmful to girls and women.
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I’m trying to prove that people can love someone who is gender fluid/gender queer/gender neutral.
My friends don’t believe me that it can happen. They say that’s why my relationships failed in the past and will fail. That’s the reason I’m single. Please like or reblog this if you disagree with them.
EDIT: They are now taking bets that I can’t find 2k people who are on my side. Lovely friends I have, eh?
They sound less like friends and more like assholes.
I’m sorry your friends are bigoted jerks. <3
Your “friends” suck.
At the company I’m working at this summer, I’m the only intern programmer who is female. Whenever I meet someone new who realizes I’m a programmer, they usually end up commenting at how lucky I am, because “software companies always want to hire women!”
Makes me feel like people in the industry will always see me first for my sex, and second for my technical abilities and accomplishments, if at all.
woman is a gender not a sex god damn it
what you said. though, this person is equating “female” (a biological sex) with “woman” (a gender presentation), so her problem isn’t that she’s female or a woman, it’s that people perceive that aspect of herself to be the most important thing. that being said, if she was biologically male and presented as a woman, she would still have this problem, so it’s still what you said.
“It doesn’t make sense to consider street harassment ‘real’ harassment, or pretty soon men won’t even be able to talk to women without it being called sexism.”
—My dad. As someone who is harassed almost daily and has had bad experiences with street harassers, I got visibly upset and he told me to stop being so sensitive. Made me feel alone.
FUCK THAT. you are not alone. I, for one, have gotten similar responses to my dis-inclination to put up with street harassers, too, so. (See also “humorless feminist” just for good measure. ugh)
“I need to know: are you looking for a career, or are you looking to get married?”
—My boss, during a discussion on whether the company should pay for me to get a master’s degree. I am 24, in a large US city corporate office.
My response (only in my head, I’m afraid) would be, “I need to know: what makes you think I can’t do both? And also, I need to know: would you ask a guy that?” Because… seriously.
“Are you normal?”
—My father asked me this when he found out I was sharing an apartment with two girls and not dating them. I am a gay male. Made me feel: sad and afraid of how he would react if I were to come out to him; like I have to lie and hide who I am to gain his acceptance; angry that he would assume that I am sleeping with my friends of the opposite gender.
The answer is yes, you are “normal” or no, no one is “normal”.
“I like to imagine you as a girl but your sentence structure and rhetoric is so concise and to the point which points to the contrary (nothing against women, simply factual).”
—Things like this keep showing up as questions for Tumblr blogs that focus on specific subjects. This in particular was sent to writingadvice.tumblr.com. Made me feel like I’m never going to be taken seriously because of the assumption that women (sorry, girls) are more like rocks than human beings with actual brain function.
I had something relatively intelligent to say about this (besides: fume rage kill) but my browser crashed and I lost it all before I could post it. So, we’re back to incoherent anger.