I’m making this in response to a tweet Adele quoted me:
“It’s the choice of a monk, not the choice of an asexual. If he was asexual, there would be no tension in that, no fun in that – it’s someone who abstains who’s interesting.
Now I’d just like to start saying, I do not like talking about my ‘sexuality’ despite it being something I do more frequently. I would just like to point out that whilst people have praised me for ‘embracing’ my sexuality that does not mean I accept it. If for a second I could wave a magic wand, if I could wish upon a star and click my heels three time to be anything but asexual I would. Now this does not mean I’m against asexuals, please don’t ever think I’d have problems with someones sexuality. I just hate what it does to me, how people view me and how society ignores me.
So Moffat coming out and telling me that my asexuality is ‘boring’ and makes for ‘boring TV” is like a kick in the fucking teeth. If you didn’t watch the last video I made about being ace and how I found solace in Sherlock one of the main driving points of it was this:
‘Asexuality needs to become more prominent in TV, films and the media in general to save people out there. To save the people who feel like they’re broken, who feel like they’re freaks because they don’t function like everyone else.’
Hell I even thanked Moffat, as if it had not been for him I’d probably be in that horribly confused place I was in 2010 when nothing made much sense to me and I feel like the sore thumb of the collective human race.
Well I take that right the fuck back.
Are you honestly trying to tell me that to be interesting a character must, at the very basic level, be driven by sexual urges and or abstinence from such urges? I’m sorry to say this but if that’s you’re opinion then you are a fucking weak writer. Sexuality and sex and relationships should not be the sole ‘interest’ or drive in programmes or the characters. Because I can tell you as a script writer myself, these are not the things I concentrate on. In any of my writing.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not doing this as some grand asexuality statement, far from it and I’m not saying sex and relationships can’t be subplots or driving forces. What I’m saying is that it is not the be all end all. I don’t find tales of abstinence interesting and I don’t find narratives strongly driven by sex and romance interesting. So pray tell why I would fucking write them?
I hate to flip this on it’s head but how unacceptable would this be if it had been pointed at homosexuality. If it had been stated that homosexual characters where uninteresting because they were only interested in same sex relationships. He would be called out as homophobic quicker than a fucking firework and bet your ass he’d be apologising. However this is perfectly acceptable, because as we all must remember, asexuality doesn’t exist!
I do apologise to my followers and anyone else reading this but I really cannot stress how offended and angry I feel right now. I’ve stated numerous times before that Sherlock (as a character) means a fucking lot to me and stopped me from making some very stupid mistakes and doing some very stupid things. Yet my faith and shall I say, belief in this character, is constantly called out and slandered as being wrong.
So yes, I’m angry more than I am upset, but I think what angers me more is that yet again a positive example of an asexual has been ‘corrected’. As heaven forbid there be people in this world who do not identify as ‘sexual’.
Reblogging because there’s some important stuff in here. Personally I don’t watch or really care about Sherlock, but I know a bunch of my followers do, and this is also important considering asexuality as well as how shows are written.